I had one of those. But it didn't happen all that wonderfully.

We all have choices. No matter what it may seem like there is always a choice in everything that we do. Even if it is the lack of making a choice on what we need to do, or to say. The lack of voicing what may need to be said, or be told to someone, is still a choice.

This epiphany came from quite an unlikely source. I won't say it, as some might feel it trivial. But there is a quote I can relay that summarizes what I am trying to say.

"With great power comes great responsibility."

Being a husband and father is a great power, and if that is not used in the proper way, you fail in your responsibility. A father and husband must use the power that they have to mirror that responsibility. And sometimes that means giving up on your dreams. And that may sound bad, but it isn't meant to be negative. You see when a man and a woman decide to share their lives together, they give up on their individual dreams for the sake of the other. Again this may sound negative, but think what you have done for your spouse/significant other.

It is time that I grew up and realized that.

Sometimes there is something that we don't realize about ourselves until it too late. Much how, as humans, we take for granted what we treasure the most, when it is gone, or destroyed. We can't seem to overcome that. Sometimes we sit in the dark, brooding about OUR feelings, and OUR freedoms, and OURSELVES. And something, from a totally unexpected source, comes and slaps on the back of the head and says "what the hell's your problem?" Then you come to realize what you did. And then you have to fix that problem.

It's hard to be human sometimes. It is difficult and full of choices, both academic and morally. And sometimes we don't want to make a choice because it is difficult, or we don't like the results that may follow that choice. But it still must be made, for the good of others. And sometimes it seems like it is only for the good of others, but it isn't. We just don't see that it is for our own good as well.

I often have not shared much of myself. I prefer to remain anonymous. But many of you have shared many things of yourselves to me, to try and connect with others. We are all on the same planet, but we are all from different worlds. And the world that I come from, has never been a happy place. It was confusing and emotionally draining. It changed me from who I strived to be. But I found another world to live in, the one that I am in now. And yet the memories and remnants from my old world, still effect the present one. And many times those effects are negative, because I haven't left the life on my old world completely. I haven't embraced this new one fully yet. Even though I have been in this world for seven years now.

May U Live 2 See The Dawn

"Even though sometimes we have to be steady and give up the thing
we want the most. Even our dreams."

Okay there seems to be a bit of conflict as to who Vince Vaughn belongs to.

If you ask Miss Nurse, she swears that he is her "mountain of beefcake".

If you ask Heather, she swears, that he is her man, in which he needs a ladder to reach.

So my answer to finding out just who is in the right here, I have a suggestion. It is so much easier than asking Vince himself, as his opinion is irrelavant. The above mentioned ladies, will be the one's deciding this man's fate.

My answer -- catfight, preferably there being some sort of mud involved. Maybe even some hissing and biting. 8-)

You ladies decide.

If you figure it out let me know.

(Yall are to funny. Both with a post on Vince on the same day. Concidence?)

May U Live 2 See The Dawn

"Is it possible that there are no concidences?"

Every woman should be loved, just like this.

Prince wrote this to his one time wife, the night before their wedding. Since I heard this song, love has never meant the same to me.

A special lady here in blogstream . . . this is for you.

Friend, Lover, Sister, Mother, Wife
Prince

If I ever held a hand
It was only because I'd never held your hand
That was part of the plan
I had 2 get it right if I was 2 be your man

And if I ever kissed your lips
I needed time 2 cross the others off my list (off my list)
A higher high 2 the trip (trip)
I wanted U 2 go, that was my wish - yes it was

(Ooh my) Friend, lover, sister, mother/wife
Air, food, water, love of my life

If I ever shared a bed
It was only cuz I wanted 2 live up 2 what the people said, oh yes
(What they say?)
Now I'm livin' instead
Everyday just 2 say U're the only one who's in my head
(The only one)
Oh yes U are

And if I ever made U cry
All I have 2 do is think about it and I just wanna die (I just wanna
die)
(I just wanna break down and die, die, die, die)
How I'd ever make it by (I don't know) without U, baby (without U, baby)
I don't know (No!), I hope I never have 2 try, yeah
(Please don't ever leave me)
Oh, listen 2 me

(Ooh my) Friend, lover, sister, mother/wife
(My sweet, sweet friend, lover, sister, mother/wife)
Air, food, water, love of my life

The eyes of my child I see every time U look at me
(I see a sweet baby smile)
A sweet baby smile like a light that shines 4 all 2 see

(And if I ever held a hand) If I ever held a hand
Oh, 'twas only cuz I'd never held yours
That was part of, part of the plan
I had 2 get it right (right) if I was 2 be your man because...

(Ooh my) Friend, lover, sister, mother/wife
(Friend, lover, sister, mother/wife)
My, my, my, my air, my food, my water, love of my life (I love U)
(Everlasting life)

Teacher (teacher), healer (healer), feeler (feeler), sight 4 sore eyes
(Let me look at your eyes - U're so pretty)
Oh, yes U are, baby
(Ooh my) Don't U know U're my friend, my lover, my sister, love of my
life (mother/wife)
Yeah, baby, yes U are

{"Te amo" is "I love U"}
(Ooh my) Friend (te amo), lover (te amo), sister (te amo), mother/wife
(Hug me, hug me, hug me baby, U are my life)
(I'll stay with U 4ever)
Till death do us part, baby (Yes sir!)
Air (te amo), food (te amo), water (te amo), love (love of my life)
U are the only, only love of my life

My friend, lover, sister, mother/wife

May U Live 2 See The Dawn

"You are special."

Borrowed posting this from the Captain's Blog.

Your Love Style is Agape

You are a caring, kind, and selfless partner. Unsurprisingly, your love style is the most rare. You are willing to sacrfice your world for your sweetie. Except it doesn't really feel like sacrifice to you. For you, nothing feels better than giving to the one you love.

"Oral sex (from Latin os, oris "mouth") consists of all the sexual activities that involve the use of the mouth and tongue, to stimulate genitalia. It may be used as foreplay before intercourse, as climax of a sexual act, or even following intercourse. It is sometimes performed to the exclusion of all other forms of sexual activity. Oral sex may or may not include the ingestion of semen and vaginal fluids. Ingestion of these fluids alone, without physical mouth-to-genital contact, is not considered to be oral sex." en.wikipedia.org

Okay, yes I had to bring it up, huh? Well with the recent topics that I have come up with (no pun intended) lately, I might need to change the name of my blog to "What Would You DO??!!!". Does the exclamation points make the question any different?

But the reason for this, as with all other post, I get to talk about sex, is because oral sex is something that is entirely different than vaginal, or penetrative sex. Obviously because it is a different position and act, but also the psychological aspect of it.

With oral sex, the act seems totally unselfish. Because the act is preformed on only one partner's sexual organs (unless the 69 is employed). To preform oral sex, to me, is to say, that regardless of what I get out of it, the receiver is likely to reach an orgasm. With then puts the performer on the spot with their talents. 8-)

"Oral sex is often, but certainly not always, intended to culminate in orgasm. Not only are the sexual organs sensitive and well supplied with nerve endings, the same is true of the mouth, tongue and lips, so enjoyment of oral sex is not always limited to the person on the receiving end." en.wikipedia.org

Although there is a reception of sexual pleasure from both parties, most times it is the receiver's response to the performer, that gives the performer an physical or sexual satisfaction. In other words, the vocal responses that the receiver (sometimes even physical, as in body movement, placement of the hands on the performer, and tightening of the muscles) give the performer the satisfaction of knowing that the act is pleasing his/her partner. The sounds of sexual satisfaction that can emanate from the mouth can be a symphony to the ears of the performer, egging him/her on to culminate the act for the receiver.

"In heterosexual relationships, oral sex can be a method of contraception (birth control) since pregnancy is impossible unless semen enters the vagina. Many heterosexuals choose oral sex as an alternative to intercourse for this reason. Some heterosexual couples use fellatio as a substitute for intercourse during the woman's menstrual cycle." en.wikipedia.org

This works in theory, but not always in real life. As oral sex is no substitute for the feeling of sex. It is not as intimate and personal. But it can also be used to please one partner, when the other may not be able to engage in sex, for one reason or the other.

Cunnilingus

"Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth and tongue to stimulate the female genitals, especially the clitoris. The term comes from an alternative Latin word for the vulva (cunnus) and from the Latin word for tongue (lingua). 70% of women have reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and cunnilingus may be a way for women to achieve orgasm with a partner." en.wikipedia.org

Sometimes the penis cannot give a woman's clitoris the attention that is needs. And the misconception that it is the skill or the man during vaginal sex, can be debated. The simple biological fact that the tongue is much more limber and contortive, is sufficient reason to dispel this theory. So a man preforming oral sex on his partner, allows her to reach a level of orgasm that is not possible with conventional sex. The clitoris, much like the head of a man's penis, is the most sensitive part of a woman's genitals. So the stimulation of the clitoris is something that can sometimes only be done through the act of oral sex. Because the clitoris is more accessible through the use of the tongue and mouth, than through conventional sex.

Check out the following --

"The clitoris is the most sensitive part for almost all women, but may be too sensitive to stimulate directly at times, especially in early stages of arousal, and it is often best to begin with more gentle and less focused stimulation of the labia and the whole genital area." en.wikipedia.org

So be gentle guys, take your time, give her attention, make her scream. There is nothing more satisfy than satisfying your mate. That alone, can sometimes be the most awesome mental orgasm a man can have.

As Mistress Reba would say -- "The mind is the most fuckable part of the body." And that statement applies a hell of a lot here.

Take a few tips here, and see if this helps. If you have any luck, send praises, via comments. 8-)

Hope you guys have some luck!

Tongue tip, blade or underside can be used, as can the nose, lips and teeth, with caution. Movements can be slow or fast, regular or erratic, firm or soft, as the moment requires.

The tongue can be inserted into the vagina, either stiffened or moving. Humming to cause vibration while performing oral sex is often considered to be especially arousing, with certain pitches, rhythms or tunes thought to be particularly effective by different people.

AMEN!