Okay, since I seem to have sex on the mind all the time now, I thought that I might put it to some kind of intelligent use. So I am going to explore/share some thoughts and views on the female sexuality with the help of
en.wikipedia.orgNow this may be from a man's point of view, but with the texts that I will quote from hopefully I can keep this as unbiased as possible. I read quite a bit on human sexality, to prepare to write this post. However, after reading, fetishes, paraphillia, sexual orientation, and sex and religion, I finally decided on this. Because for me, the things that drive a woman sexually are of interest. Not just academicly, but also to better the act of sex. By understanding the needs and desires of a woman, a man can not only better the pleasure for himself, but also his female partner. But, you have to understand them before you can please them. It is an effort well worth your time gentlemen.
Double your pleasure.
"Human female sexuality encompasses a broad range of issues, behavior and processes, including female sexual identity and sexual behavior, the physiological, psychological, social, cultural, political, and spiritual or religious aspects of sex. Various aspects and dimensions of female sexuality, as a part of human sexuality, have also been addressed by principles of ethics, morality, and theology."
en.wikipedia.orgAnd that doesn't just apply to women only. Men and women's sexuality is changed, determined, and molded by many different things. Like fetishes for certain things, are sometimes made from something that might be totally non-sexual.
For instance, leather. Leather is used in products of all kinds. But the allure that someone might have to leather, may not have stemed from sex. There is also, the wearer. Do you like to wear leather? Is it the feel of it on your body? Or maybe you prefer to see the opposite sex in leather. You can hear the sound of it, moving with her body. The smell of leather. Or the fact that it at one time was the skin of another living creature.
"In almost any historical era and culture, the arts, including literary and visual arts, as well as popular culture, present a substantial portion of a given society's views on human sexuality, which also include implicitly or explicitly female sexuality. Aspects of female sexuality include issues pertaining to biological sex, body image, self-esteem, personality, sexual orientation, values and attitudes, gender roles, relationships, and activity options, and communication."
en.wikipedia.orgA woman's sexual arousal is not as simple as a man's. For one, men are very visual. Nothing would drive me further crazy then I already am to see my wife in a corset. Women, take to both the sex act itself, and the emotions that go with it. Not to say that there are not times when women just want to have sex (or that other four letter word, that to me, describes, sex for the act itself) rather than "make love". This can sometimes denote, the gentle feeling of being with someone, holding them close to you, feeling all parts of their body, and whispering to them, loving them. This may not ever include the actual act of penetration. Or as one of my wife's favorite songs says in the chorus, "I want to f**k you like an animal, I want to feel you from the inside out".
And woman may sometime just want sex. No chit chat, just sex. Sometimes they need the attention, that they deserve, and that you men should be giving them. Because the love and emotions that stem from a women for their partner, are incorperated in the act of sex.
Men tend to see sex as an act, not an emotion. Or to say it a different way -- you can have love without sex, but you can't have sex without love. I tend to agree. Sex is great. But love is what makes sex grand. And when you are open and honest with your partner, you can have it all. Love and sex.
"Historically, female sexuality has been seen in many male-dominated cultures as subordinate to male sexuality, and as something to be controlled by society by restrictions on female behaviour."
en.wikipedia.orgI think that the above statement can be made, because there is more effort to be made to understand a woman's sexuality. And sometimes simply being able to get sex out of a woman is enough for a man. But I am telling you guys, make the effort to understand. You don't know what you are missing if you don't find out.
I have said it many times, even though it may not be true for all men, but I think that women were born to be the dominate one regarding sex. They look at things more complexly. They strive to find out what it is that makes you "tick". And when they do that, they can make it "tick" like you wouldn't believe. If it were not for two women in this world, I would have never understood my own sexuality.
"Traditional cultural practices such as enforced modesty and chastity have historically tended to place restrictions principally on women, without imposing similar restrictions on men.
Even in the twentieth century, many people did not believe that respectable women should enjoy sex; rather, it was said that they should "lie back and think of England".
Nevertheless, many studies have shown that women's actual sexual behaviour throughout history appears, like that of men, not to have been controlled to anywhere near the degree desired by society."
en.wikipedia.orgIt is a male-dominated world. It always has, maybe always will, that I can't answer. But some of the restrictions that male society has put on women throughout history, is like any other restriction, such as race, class, or age -- it is out of fear. And fear usually stems for misunderstanding something, or being ignorant of it, whether that ignorance is intentional or not. Men have attempted to control women throughout the human race's history. From Adam down to today.
"A medieval reference to Lilith as the first wife of Adam is the anonymous The Alphabet of Ben-Sira, written sometime between the 8th and 11th centuries. Lilith is described as refusing to assume a subservient role to Adam during sexual intercourse and so deserting him ("She said, 'I will not lie below,' and he said, 'I will not lie beneath you, but only on top. For you are fit only to be in the bottom position, while I am to be the superior one.'"). Lilith promptly uttered the name of God, took to the air, and left the Garden, settling on the Red Sea coast."
en.wikipedia.org"Sigmund Freud propounded the theory of two kinds of female orgasms, "the vaginal kind, and its kid sister, the clitoral orgasm." Though, studies (1960s) by Masters and Johnson reject this distinction. Further studies have revealed the existence of uterine orgasms so there remains some debate."
en.wikipedia.orgI don't think that I need to say much on this. Women are put together very differently than men. The amount of sexual pleasure and orgasm that a woman can experience make the act of sex very different than what men feel. Jeff Foxworthy said it best, that women are like a disel engine, they make take a while to warm up, but when they do, they can run for a looooooong time. Men are like bottle rockets, light the fuse and the go -- woooosh BOOOM!
"Feminist attitudes to female sexuality have taken two, superficially opposing, directions. The first is that female sexuality should be accepted and women should be free to have sex when they like, with who they like. The other is that women should be empowered to refuse to have sex when they want to, or to have their sexuality respected in society. A minority view within radical feminism states that even if it appears that women consent, heterosexual sex is inherently nonconsensual and women cannot ever be said to truly consent to it, because their decision is forged by the expectations and influences of growing up in a predominantly male-oriented society."
en.wikipedia.orgOkay, I know I had to bring it up. I'll make a few statements on this but I don't want to get too deep into it. I look at feminist, the same as sexist men. There is no need for them. Neither a man nor a woman needs to be superior. We are both equal. We compliment each other. Just as some men compliment other men. And some women compliment other women. No matter your gender or sexual preference, we are made to be complete. When somone compliments you that well, the two become one, and there is no need for superiority. I like chocolate syurp and I like milk. Together they make chocolate milk. Neither ingredient is superior, they both are needed to become one new taste.
As far as that last statement goes. . . it is sad that society has given birth to such a horrible, wicked statement. Both men and women are responsible for such a statement.
I do not need to "wear the pants" in my marriage. And my wife doesn't have to have a "headache" to punish me for something that I did/didn't do.
I hope that all your marriages/legal unions (which should be marriage, but once again, I have to give the human race some time to learn tolerance) are as wonderful as mine is.
May U Live 2 See The Dawn
"The element of surprise, Scully. Random acts of unpredictability. If we fail to anticipate the unforeseen or expect the unexpected in a universe of infinite possibilities, we find ourselves at the mercy of anyone or anything that cannot be programmed, categorized or easily referenced..."
May U Live 2 See The Dawn
May U Live 2 See The Dawn
May U Live 2 See The Dawn
